By Event Capsule Editorial Team·Published
Most bridal showers are planned by someone who has never planned one before: a maid of honour, a sister, a mother or an aunt, often in a different city from the bride. If the wedding is next spring or summer, the shower will probably fall somewhere between February and May, which means the planning starts around now. This bridal shower planning checklist runs from the first conversation with the bride to the last thank-you note. It covers who should host, when to hold the shower, who to invite, invitation and registry wording, a simple order for the day, how to keep track of gifts, and how to make sure the photos guests take on their phones actually reach the bride.
The practical answer
Settle four things before you book anything: who is hosting and paying, the date, the guest list and the budget. Hold the shower between about two months and two weeks before the wedding, send invitations four to six weeks ahead, and only invite people who are also invited to the wedding. On the day, put one person in charge of the gift list and give guests one easy way to share their photos, so the bride has both a record of who gave what and a full set of pictures afterwards.
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Have one conversation with the bride, and with any co-hosts, before you choose a venue or a theme.
Usually a member of the bridal party or a close friend or relative hosts. The Emily Post Institute notes that the bride's family once avoided hosting and today often does, and that almost anyone close to the bride can. Its one firm line is that it is still a faux pas for the engaged couple to throw their own shower. Whoever hosts usually pays, so if several bridesmaids are co-hosting, agree how costs will be split before money is spent, not after.
Emily Post's rule of thumb is that anyone invited to a shower would normally be invited to the wedding, and the host usually checks the list with the bride to make sure. The main exception is an office shower thrown by coworkers who are not on the wedding list. A shower is meant to be a smaller, more personal party than the wedding itself, so ask the bride for her list rather than copying the wedding spreadsheet.
Brunch, afternoon tea, a co-ed couples shower or a restaurant dinner all work. Ask the bride how she feels about games, opening gifts in front of everyone and being the centre of attention.
Set a total first, then divide it between the venue, food and drink, decorations, favours and printing. At a restaurant, the cost per person times the guest count is most of the budget.
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Emily Post suggests holding the shower two months to two weeks before the wedding, once the couple's plans are firm. Zola describes the general rule more loosely, as a few weeks to a few months before the date. Within that window, pick a date that suits the most important guests and leaves space before the bachelorette party and the wedding.
Joy's planning checklist recommends starting at least three months before the shower. A small brunch at home can come together in five or six weeks.
Key dates
Start planning
3 months
Before the shower, for a venue booking
Hold the shower
2 months to 2 weeks
Before the wedding
Send invitations
4 to 6 weeks
Before the shower
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Use the stages below as a working list. If you are short on time, compress the first two stages into one week and keep the rest as written.
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Four to six weeks' notice gives guests time to travel or buy a gift. Set the reply-by date about a week before your caterer needs the final number.
Emily Post's advice is that registry information can go with the invitation but not on it. In practice that means a separate insert card, a line on the RSVP page, or a short note in the message you send with a digital invitation. Keep it to one line, for example: "For those who have asked, Anna and Sam are registered at [store]."
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The job most often forgotten is writing down who gave what. Ask one organised guest to sit next to the bride and record each gift and the giver's name as it is opened, and tape cards to the matching gift. If gifts are not opened at the shower, make the list at home that evening.
Hallmark suggests aiming to post shower thank-you notes within three months and getting them written before the wedding, so they do not pile up with the wedding gift notes. A complete list, addresses from the host and a few photos of the gift opening make that much faster.
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Few showers have a professional photographer, so the photos come from guests' phones, and most of them stay there. Decide how photos will be gathered before the day, and mention it in the invitation.
Fine for a small, close group. Photos arrive in different threads, messaging apps often compress them, and someone has to save each one.
Keeps everything in one place, but guests may need an account or a particular phone to add photos, and everything appears to everyone as soon as it is added, including the bride. It works best when the whole guest list uses the same service.
Guests scan a code on a sign or table card and upload from their phone's browser, with no app. This suits mixed groups, from the bride's college friends to her grandmother. When you compare tools, check what guests have to do to upload, who can see photos during the party, whether you can remove a photo, how you download the full set and what the price covers for your guest count.
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Event Capsule is one of those QR photo tools. The host creates a capsule, prints the QR code or shares the link, and guests upload photos from their phone's browser on iPhone or Android, without downloading an app or creating an account. Until the reveal time you set, guests see a sealed capsule with a photo count rather than each other's photos, so the bride sees everything at once afterwards instead of a feed during her own party.
You choose an upload window, which can be up to seven days long, and a reveal time; uploads close by the reveal at the latest. A common set-up is to keep uploads open through the evening and reveal the gallery the next morning. Before the reveal, the host can review uploads as reduced-resolution previews and hide anything that should not be in the gallery; guests are not told when a photo is hidden. After the reveal there is a full-screen slideshow, and the full-resolution photos can be downloaded. Photos are kept for 30 days after the reveal and then deleted, so download the set to keep or print. Event Capsule collects photos only, not videos.
The same event can also carry a digital invitation with RSVPs. Plans are priced once per event and sized by how many guests join to upload photos, which is often fewer than the number who attend. For a typical shower that means Core Memories at $8.99 for up to 20 guests, Photo Drop at $12.99 for up to 30, or Full Roll at $24.99 for up to 100, with a free plan for up to five guests.
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A spring wedding usually means a shower in late winter, which brings a few practical details that summer checklists skip.
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